In this penultimate post in the series on the REACT framework™, we will start to get more resourceful. Being more resourceful will enable you to have the access to the means to be the best you want to be, and for you to be in this position on virtually every occasion.
In the A part of REACT, you imaginatively identified appropriate resources that would enable you to be in the right state (made up of a combination of any or all of your physiology, your emotions, your acuity, and your spiritual condition) to achieve what you really want to achieve. You didn’t limit yourself in any way, but let your creativity, imagination and child-like sense of wonder create the maximum possibilities for you.
C is for Claim your resources. Now you know what resources are appropriate to your situation, it is time to find and claim those resources, to make them available to you in the here and now. Take one resource at a time (for instance, to achieve the state that is best for what I want to achieve, I need to be really, really creative) and think of a time when you had that resource in abundance (recall a time when you really were at your creative best). Relive that time as fully as you can, recall it through as many senses as you are able. Hear what was said (actual dialogue if you can, both yours and any others involved), see what you saw at the time (with as much detail as you can; what colours were you wearing?) and experience once again the feelings and emotions that coursed through you. If you can, notice any smells and tastes associated with the experience. Make reliving the experience as full as you can, and enjoy it.
I recall working with one client who identified an appropriate resource as ‘being very happy and care-free’. As the client searched for a previous time when this had been her state, I could see that it was taking a lot of effort and processing by the brain and memory banks. After a while, a massive grin appeared on her face, followed by tears of joy. It was apparently a long time previously that she had last experienced such happiness in a care-free state.
Relive the experience, and recall the resources that you had at the time and keep with you the knowledge of having the resource, so that you can bring that resource into the here and now. Repeat the exercise for each of the resources appropriate to achieving what you want in the present and the future. In a future bonus material, I will share with you ways of creating ‘triggers’ that make easier the accessing of your previous resources. The triggers enable me to access the resources I need and I have many, many triggers that I have amassed, cultivated and treasured over time. When the bonus material is released, you can get it from http://bit.ly/BonusMaterials
But what do you do if you genuinely cannot recall a time when you had the resource that you know is appropriate for you right now? The first response is to persist in your search as my client did a couple of paragraphs back. If you initially think you have never had the resource, ask yourself again. ‘Really? Are you certain? Is your mind telling you that you have never had the resource doing so because that seems the easy option?’ So often, patience, persistence and positivity, along with encouragement, curiosity and open-mindedness, enable the apparently resource-less to find and claim their appropriate resources.
However, there have been times when a client has not been able to identify an occasion when they have truly had their appropriate resource. This is challenging, but not entirely insurmountable. Sometimes people say to me things such as ‘I will be presenting to 50 people, and I have never done that before, so I don’t have the resource I need to present to such a large number of people’. I work with them to break down the resource(s) they need into smaller pieces. For example, can they recall a time when they presented really well, if only to a few people or to one person even – a time when they persuaded this smaller number and were comfortable in doing so? I then help them to relive that experience. Having done that, I may then ask if they can recall a time when they were happy and comfortable in a large group of people, say at a party or a wedding or a company social outing. Again, I help them to re-experience that event fully using all the senses. I then help them to take the two constituent parts they need (comfort with presenting and comfort in a large group) and imagine how things would be if they combined those two resources to help them present to a large group for the first time. (In this particular case I would also tell them that the best presenters don’t present to a collective audience, they make one-to-one contact with individuals, one person at a time).
When searching for and claiming your resources please do not limit yourself by looking only in places that have the same context. In the example above, the context was presenting to a large group of people in the business world, but one of the resources needed came from a social setting. Context is irrelevant – it is still your resource, wherever you had it.
In the final post we’ll look at how to use to best effect the resources you have now claimed. If you want to really understand the REACT framework™, and want to perfect your use of it to be the best you want to be click here http://bit.ly/REACTworkshop