This is the first post in a series that will enable you to be the best you want to be, almost all the time. On several occasions in the book ‘Dance with the Elephants’ reference is made to recognising and recording the positives that you experience each and every day. The chapter entitled ‘Celebrate!’ explains the process that your conscious mind can use to train your other-than-conscious mind, creating new neural pathways in your brain. The framework that will be explained in this series of blog posts will enable you not only to supplement the creation of these new neural pathways but also to access resources that will enable you to be even more successful.
Doing the work on your Big Dream, Crafted Well, Engaging All is vitally important, but sometimes it just isn’t enough. Surprisingly (or, maybe not) we get in the way of our own success. I write ‘maybe not’ because it probably isn’t surprising given that a lot of our moods, thoughts and deeds are determined by our other-than-conscious minds. We really aren’t consciously in control a lot of the time.
So how do you counter the influence, power and control of your other-than-conscious mind? How do you seize back control in order to give yourself the best chance of realising your Big Dream and achieving your transformation?
Here is a framework I have developed over time. I use it personally, and I help my clients to learn how to use this powerful tool to have available to them the resources they need to be the best they want to be.
R is for Recognise your state. Your state is the way that you are in any given moment. It is made up of a combination of any or all of your physiology, your emotions, your acuity, and your spiritual condition (the latter being the relationship between you and a sense of something larger than you). In order to manage your state you must first be able to recognise your state, something most people don’t do very often, often only recognising their state when it gets to be at an extreme end of a spectrum. Sometimes we only recognise that we are fearful when we are very, very afraid. Sometimes it is only extreme giddy elation that leads to us recognising we are elated. Sometimes it is only when we have really lost our cool and our tempers, when we are screaming out loud, when we are physically shaking, that we recognise we are very angry about something, or somebody.
Recognising your state is a learnable skill that improves with practice. Take a moment now to notice your physiology. Is your breathing deep or shallow? Is it slow and long or quick and short? Is it through your nose, your mouth or a bit of both?
Notice other things about your physiology. Are you sitting upright or are you slumped? What is your temperature like? Are you cold, or warm, or is the temperature just right?
Consider what your body is telling you. Do you have any aches or pains? Can you feel how your feet are touching the ground? If you are sitting, which parts of your body are touching whatever you are sitting on?
What is your emotional state right now? How are you feeling about what you are experiencing right now? This exercise is having what effect on your emotions? Are you happy, frustrated, or perhaps curious? Don’t process these questions intellectually, but instead feel your responses.
How is your mental state right now, in this very moment, in this very place? What is your level of attentiveness, your degree of awareness, your volume of conscious brain activity?
Having conscious awareness of your current state is the first step. In subsequent blog posts I will take you through the rest of the journey to being the best you want to be.